A Nigerian lady has triggered a conversation online after sharing a post questioning the popular idea of being an “understanding girlfriend” in a struggling relationship.
The woman took to X (formerly Twitter) to express her confusion over why some women proudly refer to themselves as ”understanding” even when both partners are financially struggling.
In her post, she explained that in many relationships, both the woman and her boyfriend may be broke, yet the woman is the one praised for being patient and supportive.
Lady Questions Meaning of “Understanding Girlfriend”
According to the lady, situations often arise where the boyfriend is working hard to survive while the girlfriend has no job or steady income, yet she is still described as the one ”Understanding”.
She also described scenarios where the boyfriend uses the little money he makes to buy food items , cooks food, and both partners eat together, but the girlfriend still claims she is the one making sacrifices.
The lady further pointed out that when both partners share intimacy in the relationship, the satisfaction is mutual. She questioned why only the woman is seen as the one enduring hardship.
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In her words: “I stand corrected, but…
There’s nothing like Understanding Girlfriend. It doesn’t exist.
You are broke, your boyfriend is broke, but na you dey understand.
He’s the one hustling, you don’t have a handwork or a job but na you dey understand.
You don’t have food to eat, you went to your boyfriend’s place, from his hustle, her bought groceries, he cooked, you ate. But na you dey understand.
You both had sex. He gave you his body to satisfy your sexual desire. Your gave him your body for the same pleasure, but na you dey understand.
My question is; What exactly are you UNDERSTANDING?
I don’t get it. Make it make sense.
Mind you, I stand corrected.”
